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[ladyiapetus]

Well, the funeral was today. Surprisingly I haven't cried as much as I thought I would over this. I did some crying last night (at home, after I went to bed). At the funeral I didn't start crying until the soloist sang "In the Garden" (and I now have another song to add to my list of "Sad, Depressing, Weepy Songs"), and later I kinda-sorta broke down in the women's restroom at the church.

I really feel sorry for my cousin Chase. She's only three, and last night and today her dad and her grandparents (my aunt and uncle) were trying to explain to her what was going on. They told her that Great-Grandma was "sleeping" because she had been "sick", and I think they told her she wasn't going to wake up. But I'm not sure if Chase really got that Grandma wasn't going to be coming home ever again. It's a good thing that Grandma's casket being lowered into the ground wasn't part of the service, because I have no idea how they would have explained that to Chase.

And finally, it needs to be required that a death certificate should be proofread at least twice before it is signed. Because whoever filled out my grandmother's put in that she was male, not female. So they're going to have to go back and reissue the thing with the correct information.

Either that, or dig up Grandma and perform a sex change operation. My apologies for the gallows humor.

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SO WRONG!

[mooneflowerz.livejournal.com]

And finally, it needs to be required that a death certificate should be proofread at least twice before it is signed. Because whoever filled out my grandmother's put in that she was male, not female. So they're going to have to go back and reissue the thing with the correct information.

That is SOOO wrong in SOOO many ways! Although, for somereason I now have the song I'm my own grandpa stuck in my head!


*Huggles you*

[drteeth26.livejournal.com]

"Either that, or dig up Grandma and perform a sex change operation. My apologies for the gallows humor"

Now I know I'm becoming a bad influence...

But seriously, explaining death to little kids isn't easy. Another acquaintance went through the same thing when a friend of hers passed away prematurely. Said friend left behind a very young child who was crying for her mommy during the visitation.

[akino-ame.livejournal.com]

Hey, sometimes some dark humor is needed. It's a release, even if it isn't in the typical way.

Ditto on the death certificate. My grandma's obituary had her birthday different from the official records and screwed up her name. And as for your little cousin... Little kids are surprisingly perceptive when it comes to these things. Remember my post about my grandma's wake and my six-year-old sister's speech? And my brother was three or four when a close family friend died, and the way he saw it was that our friend was sleeping in Heaven with God. Chase might understand better than you think, and she might be able to deal with it easier than some of the rest of you. God knows Kate did.

Still here if you need me, though I've been sick and had a hell of a time trying to muster up the energy for AIM. E-mail me if you need.